Finishing The Lenten Season Strong

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Finishing The Lenten Season Strong

Some years during Lent, I feel like I am in a cross country race. I start off with the best intentions jogging along in prayer and fasting and then slow down to a slow trot or even a walk. This is the part of Lent, with just a couple of weeks left, where we can dig deep and finish strong.

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You Don’t Have a Soulmate

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You Don’t Have a Soulmate

There is no custom-designed soulmate for you. There; I said it. As I am already aware from having this debate on social media, some people will want to come after me with pitchforks. I’m okay with that. Just hear me out first, and wait for me to make a will so John and the kids get my stuff.

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 Selfless Love. Are you doing it wrong?

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Selfless Love. Are you doing it wrong?

Selfless love is a hard thing for me. The problem is, sometimes I think my love is like a bucket of water; I love someone and a little bit pours out, someone loves me and a little bit pours back in. Most times, I pour out and my water lands right in their bucket. That should be enough, but I find myself constantly checking my own bucket to see if they returned the favor.

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The Practical Christian’s Guide to Lent

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The Practical Christian’s Guide to Lent

Bear in Mind: God Does Lent for Us; We Don’t Do It for Him. If you think that you are going to crush Lent, it will crush you. And good. You apparently need a firm crushing or a heaping spoonful of you suck. The point of Lent is not to stretch ourselves, it is not a fitness regimen to make ourselves grow in holiness, it is not to prove ourselves to God or man, and for pity’s sake, it is not a contest.

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More Church, Less Militant

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More Church, Less Militant

I’ve written several times about how Catholics should not be jerks on the internet (Cardinal Sins of Social Media Debate and Paul’s Letter to Social Media). I would think it obvious that being unkind towards others—especially over media as impersonal and public as social media—pushes people away from the faith.

Yet each time I’ve written, I’m met with resistance by devout Catholics—both left and right leaning—justifying their nastiness by citing various examples from scripture where Jesus (or Paul or somebody) supposedly did something similar so it’s ok—noble, even—for them to hurl insults.

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My Spiritual Love Lessons

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My Spiritual Love Lessons

This weekend marked my first wedding anniversary and I wanted to reflect on the some of the feelings and spiritual lessons that I have learned along the way this past year.

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Paul’s Letter to Social Media

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Paul’s Letter to Social Media

You speak of “us” and “them.”  You say that “they” are the source of “our” problems. You beseech the Lord to enlighten “them” to be more like “us,” and you thank God that you and those who think like you are on the right side of history, unlike “they” who are sinners. (3) 

Have you not heard that we are all members of Christ’s body?

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The Church Needs Women (To Be Women)

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The Church Needs Women (To Be Women)

So the power of the female Catholic is nothing new. It is as old as the women of the Bible. But I fear it is often untapped. If we Catholic women concentrate our efforts on ascertaining more “power” from within the hierarchy, we may be attempting to bring about change, but are not doing it with the full strength of our femininity.

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Should I stay or should I go? An Exercise in Virtue

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Should I stay or should I go? An Exercise in Virtue

More than ever, I’m asking myself now, why am I still Catholic? Should I stay or should I go? (Cue the song)

I want to shout out trust no one! Yet, Christ still calls me on the carpet and says “will you leave too?” Within that I recall the phrase “The gates of hell shall never prevail” (Matt 16:18).

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No One Cure

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No One Cure

I don’t want to write this blog post. I’ve started it or something like it six or seven times now, only to throw away my work. But it has to be done and I feel that I need to do it. I’m going to write about the current sex scandals in the Church… What we are witnessing in the Church is a revelation of something that has been going on for a while.

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Should Christians Practice Mindfulness?

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Should Christians Practice Mindfulness?

I had been shouldering the burden of chronic anxiety and depression for years before I had learned about mindfulness. For years, I had trained my mind to ignore the root of my illness (a history of abuse) and to cope with its symptoms: my pent-up nervous energy, my over-analyzing of every social situation, my intense self-scrutiny, my hyperactive mind going to work on all my fears and insecurities.

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God’s Good Cheer

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God’s Good Cheer

Maybe it’s just me, but I think we often get so wrapped up in apologetics, Christian courtship, and theology of the body, having babies, being involved in church, and more, that we just forget to have fun. This is bad.”

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Let's Talk Sex: Catholic Edition

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Let's Talk Sex: Catholic Edition

Recently the vicissitudes of the Interwebs have me thinking about talking sex with kids.

Not in a creepy way, of course, but in the parent-to-child, where-do-babies-come-from, when-can-I-start-dating, if-I-buy-a-girl-dinner-that-means-I-can-X way.

I’m part of a Catholic Moms group on Facebook, and several conversations in the group recently have made clear to me how very, very, important it is for parents to have The Talk with their kids not once or twice, but several times throughout their lives.


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Honor Thy Mother

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Honor Thy Mother

Our holiness and goodness grow when we let the Mother of God speak to us and teach us and move us, just as she did with her Son. 

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What I've Learned From My Atheist Friends

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What I've Learned From My Atheist Friends

I once heard someone say that the longer you are a Christian, the fewer non-Christian friends you have.  I know this has been very true for me.  As I fell in love with God and my Catholic faith in high school, the more I started to make choices around my faith.  Where I went to college, the career I chose, the subjects I studied, and how I spent my free time were significantly influenced by my identity as a follower of Christ.  I don’t think this self-segregating phenomena is peculiar to Christians.  It’s totally normal, if not always healthy, to spend time with people who think and act like us. However, by the magic of social media, I’ve managed to stay in touch with, reconnect with, meet, and in fact deepen relationships with people whose lives have taken a very different turn from my own.  Some of these people are atheists

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New Bikes and the Spiritual Life

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New Bikes and the Spiritual Life

Ready or not, it was time.  Time for each child to take the next step in bike-riding expertise.  And so one sunny afternoon, we all set out – each with the next-level bike – to let the Great Bike Training of 2018 commence.  We hadn’t been at it long before three kiddos realized this was not going to be a simple one-and-done session.  As Teddy grumpily inched along on his balance bike, Max slowly wobbled next to dad, and Bridget took her first tumble, the hesitation and frustration set in

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Pope Francis Thinks You Need A Friend...Bad

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Pope Francis Thinks You Need A Friend...Bad

These days I’m making a podcast about friendship with my some of my best friends and, reflecting on so many stories, I have to say, friends are super important. In fact, Pope Francis agrees! In his new document on the call to holiness in today’s world, he emphasizes, “no one is saved alone.”

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Books That Shaped Me

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Books That Shaped Me

We're done with Lent, now, which is nice. Hopefully we're not done with growing in our faith though. This time of year we throw the switch from "Fast" to "Party". If you haven't already done so, it might be a good time to put together a reading list for the year of our Lord 2018. To help you, I'm sharing an annotated list of books that have shaped me

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